They are the same for both men and women, and are as follows:

1) Confidence  Belief in one's own overall competence, combined with a strong feeling of self-worth as an attractive potential partner for MOTOS.

2) Masculinity As Women Define It  Masculinity and femininity are the catalysts of sexual attraction. Their respective elements are best defined by the gender attracted to them, as opposed to the gender exhibiting them. Masculine men and feminine women find each other mutually attractive. A major linchpin of masculinity is tied to making women feel safe, secure and comfortable in your presence. This is best accomplished by having her best interests at heart as opposed to representing a threat to her physically, emotionally or otherwise. Mature, effective and benevolent decision making are key. Similarly, men feel safe with a woman when she proves trustworthy, loyal, reliable and supportive.

3) Actually Liking The Gender You'd Like To Attract  Genuine affection toward MOTOS (members of the other sex) is an absolute must. If you don't like them, it's unreasonable to expect them to like you in return. That's why we cannot let ourselves get angry, bitter or even jaded after a bad experience or two. There are good people of both genders, and a handful of tough experiences doesn't change that. If anything, we may need to consider the choices we make and the way we're presenting in relationships.

4) Strong Character  Having a consistent, cornerstone belief system in place allows one to understand what is right and do so even when nobody is watching. Character empowers one to make effective decisions, maintain a consistent presence and fulfill on his or her promises.

 

Similarly, once able to boldly seize opportunities to meet and attract MOTOS, sexual polarity ensures success at the attraction phase.

Notably, only the first two elements are necessary in order for pure attraction to occur.

The third element of actually liking MOTOS is what allows them to relax and enjoy being attracted. Without feeling welcomed (and also safe, really), women tend to "flake out" on dates, etc. Meanwhile, liking women and even succeeding at establishing safety/security without sexual polarity (element 2) leads to the dreaded "Just Be Friends Zone".

Finally, strong character ensures the long-term viability of the relationship by instilling a protracted sense of safety/security over the course of time.

Importantly, a "big three" person is particularly dangerous to get into a relationship with because he or she will succeed at manipulating a partner into attraction and acceptance, only to likely bring his or her life to ruins later due to their lack of character.

Over the course of several years since the concept of the "big four" was introduced, Scot has successfully defended the validity and completeness of the model even when presenting before potentially skeptical or even hostile audiences.