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A 'paint-by-numbers' approach will never be enough to become a true artist. Real skill takes attention to detail and a commitment to excellence, and this is especially true when it comes to dating and relationships.Scot McKay

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I've only been signed up for 3 days now, and I just cannot tell you how impressed I am with the quality content you are putting out. I've been downloading episodes like mad, and I'm burning up my iPod trying to take it all in. So far I feel like I've walked away from every episode having though about something in a new way. I've especially enjoyed the Online Dating material. I've made it through the basic principles part one and 2, and the using the system episode blew my mind.Andrew (Eagan, MN)
No questions this time. I just wanted to say this month's Power Session is a minor masterpiece. Í don't say that lightly. I think you nailed the whole subject of character. Your writings are going way beyond a standard podcast. There was depth, structure, subject development and a comprehensive conclusion. You are developing into a serious contributor within the whole male/female interrelationship field. Well done, and keep up the high quality.Nigel (Brisbane, Australia)
First off, much respect for your work. My name is Ingó and im a student in Iceland. Ive been going through what material I have from you and I have a simple comment. Of all the guru stuff I have been reading, the simple phrase of 'deserve what you want' is probably the best philosophy. I love it because it places the responsibility squarely on my shoulders and that fits perfectly with the attitude I'd like to have.Ingo (Reykjavik, Iceland)
I emailed you a while ago thanking you for giving me the courage not to settle but to break up with my girlfriend of 2 years, who although she was a great girl, wasn't my 10. Well, after breaking up (which was difficult!!) I met a beautiful girl at the end of August and immediately we both knew this was IT!! We got engaged yesterday (Christmas Eve) and I have never been so captivated by anyone. What you teach works. Character and being a masculine man who leads is what every girl wants deep down. Thanks and God Bless.Craig (Portadown, Northern Ireland)
I've been in "the community" for about 2 1/2 years now and have researched a vast array of "pick-up" material and have found some helpful products and material to draw from. But yours is the first product I have actually felt compelled to purchase and look more closely at. Your product is full of authenticity and a genuineness that a lot of the other programs are lacking. This is a program that wants to empower your Integrity, Authenticity, and Well Being. Not just in your relationships with women but in all relationships you have.Philip (Hillsboro, OR)
What you're doing is like a Godsend to people like me. It’s good to know what I've been doing wrong for so long, and the well-meaning but often wrong advice of friends and family never really gave much of a clue. Thank you for being out there and helping to change things. The less frustrated guys are out there, the less problems the world will have and the happier we'll all be.Olangato (Singapore)
I bought my access to ‘Click With Him’ last weekend and I'm absolutely addicted to it. I'm looking forward to listening to the next session everyday after work. I listened to your session on hidden detractors and it was a real revelation.Marianna (London, UK)
Thanks! Man, some of your stuff just blows me away. I just listened to that bit about self-esteem vs. self-confidence really put a ton of things in perspective for me.Randy (Denver, CO)
First of all I want to thank you so much for your newsletter. The whole concept of becoming a better man and deserve a great woman for my life has paid off and now I couldn't be happier. Once again thanks, you've opened my eyes to a wonderful life.Sergio (Carpinteria, CA)
Hi Emily, just wanted to say that I enjoy reading those emails and it helps when I need advices on relationships w/ men. Thanks for sending them! =)Kammi (Akron, OH)
Hi Scot, I've used your Online Dating Domination program to overhaul my Match.com profile. I put some work into writing my profile and to my surprise.... I finally started getting results! Thanks, Scot!Clayton (Hot Springs, AR)
I haven't been able to stop listening to all the content I've received already. The material has boosted my already positive/ confident attitude. Thanks for the work you are doing.Henry (St. Paul, MN)
Thought I'd drop you a quick note and thank you again for all that you are teaching me. Last we talked, I had a 2nd date. Things continue to progress there, she's crazy about me. Below I am posting her message...it starts with "Wow! You are amazing!’. Jackpot. Thanks, Scot!Joe (Cincinnati, OH)
I am so excited. I am having massive success with women these days. I am getting emails and phone numbers and going out on dates. I am having success online now after about three months since I order your program on setting up an online profile and we spoke briefly over the telephone. I am very thankful you are a coach. I love your audio Power Sessions. You have a very positive vibe and talk about success with women and the enjoyment of it. Its a great positive influence for me when I listen to about an hour of it a day. Keep it up.Allan (Portland, OR)
I haven't felt this good and confident in myself... ever. I can't give you all the credit but you are definitely an integral part. I don't generally blow smoke up people’s keester unless they deserve it.Nathan (Winnipeg, Manitoba)
Hey Scot. First of all, thanks so much for all the advice you share with us. And how you personally answer every e-mail, even within hours, is the best. Thank you, Scot. Matt (Downers Grove, IL)
Ok, so you have me hooked on your emails! I swore I'd never even entertain the idea of any thing like this, but wow...maybe if I'd found you years ago I wouldnt have made all those poor decisions!!! :-) I have never wanted to know what makes a man 'tick' more than now. Thank you for doing what you do!Bobbie Jo (Marietta, GA)
Hey Emily, thanks for the message and for all your concern for us dating novices out here :) My love life has gone through the ceiling since I started reading these, so thank you again.Sadie (Nairobi, Kenya)
I just want to take the opportunity to tell you that I find your material and your stuff great. I`m always reading, and learning, new stuff all the time and your newsletter is all a part of it.Nils (Stockholm, Sweden)
I just wanted to take a moment and say I really dig your material, and your attitude in general with respect to the community. Like a lot of other guys, I listen and read material from a LOT of sources and- being older (31)- am really picky about what I follow. And I love your stuff. Specifically because you encourage guys over and over not to settle for anything less than the fantastic. And for that I want to thank you. I think you are doing a great thing. In a sea of charlatans, you stand out. I have a lot of respect for you both. Keep it up!Patrick (New York, NY)

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He has some very interesting things to say about how to become more successful with women and dating. Not just how to meet a lot of women, but how to go from being GOOD with women to being AMAZING with women. If you're already good with women, listening to what my friend has to say JUST ONCE will improve your game significantly.David DeAngelo (www.doubleyourdating.com)
Emily shares her success with her clients with her coaching programs, and has helped many single women find the man of their dreams a LOT sooner than they would have without her help.

If you're tired of being single and you feel like NOW IS THE TIME to get yourself ‘back out there’ and finally meet a good man who is going to be a great partner, then you NEED to listen to Emily.

This is why I was excited to be able to talk to Emily myself.Christian Carter (www.catchhimandkeephim.com)
I've been in the field of psychotherapy and consulting for 55 years. I have just met Scot recently but he is the most genuine, creative, likable and successful person I've ever met in the coaching field. I can't wait to talk to him again.Homer McDonald (www.stopyourdivorce.com)
Emily McKay is one of the people that, both personally and professionally, I most respect and admire in the world of dating and relationship advice. I especially appreciate her sound belief that ‘quality begets quality’: that manipulation and game-playing have no place inside a really top-notch woman's life - or in her relationships.

Anyone looking to touch base with genuinely wise woman, to become more authentically attractive NOW, and to create rewarding, worthwhile relationships, can do no better than to consult with Emily.

Her compassion, kindness, and consistent razor-sharp insight absolutely set her apart from everyone else in this field, and it’s with pleasure that I give her my highest recommendation.Mirabelle Summers (www.scotrecommends.com/mys)
One of my good friends in this field of dating advice is Scot McKay. Scot and his wife Emily run a cool operation out of the Lone Star State (Texas), and they provide some top-notch insight into the world of dating and attraction.Carlos Xuma (www.scotrecommends.com/carlosxuma)
Scot McKay is a genuine, great guy, and in his book he shows you how to get the women, lifestyle, and fortune you deserve. If you are fed up with 'waiting around for the right person to come along' this will be the most important book you will ever read.James Brito (www.000relationships.com/towomen)
I'm thrilled to have other buddies out there who share a similar passion and viewpoint on all this fun stuff :) Marie Forleo (www.makeeverymanwantyou.com)
Awesome stuff from Scot - refreshingly direct, to the point, no mumbo-jumbo or sleazy stuff. This is the kind of message that vibes with me.Michael "The Dating Wizard"
Scot McKay is one awesome guy and an even better teacher! In his e-book, you'll learn how to get the type of woman you feel you should have--and how to stop settling for what you can get!Joseph "Thundercat" Matthews (www.artofapproaching.com)
Scot McKay represents and trains today's men on getting more out of life and becoming the men they can be with women despite the challenges out there. There is a lot to learn and apply, so get in relation to the types of resources (like Scot's) that will help you get to where you want to be. I think you'll find his mindset quite refreshing compared to mainstream advice out there. He can help you get what you deserve!Rion Williams (www.thechickwhisperer.com/joseph)
Scot and Emily McKay have all the secrets and information you need to meet that person of your dreams. They will be by your side every step of the way until you have met your dream guy or gal. Forget everything you've been taught - and be prepared to be re-modeled into a man or woman magnet! You do deserve what you want, and with the McKays at the helm, you will most certainly get it!!!Sally Shields (www.theDILrules.com)
I feel that you understand more about this stuff than most people I talk to which is much respect. I look forward to doing more with you in the future.Cory Skyy (www.thechickwhisperer.com/cory)
There aren't many people who I turn to when I have a question about women...but Scot McKay is one of the few. The guy's got an understanding of women--and MORE IMPORTANTLY the dynamic between men and women--that I've never seen before.Brad Howard (www.scotrecommends.com/adonis)
Scot's a pretty damn amazing guy, really class A amongst people in The Community, one of the few people I'd trust to have my back if I was in a jam. He puts out quality content in a similar vein to what I enjoy putting out there: long term based, ethical strategies. Scot's married and works with his wife on his business, and she's ultra-supportive and they seem like an ideal couple. Scot's methodologies will really appeal to a lot of the guys in VL that are looking for maturity and sophistication in their relationships and growth.Sebastian Drake (www.MasterTheVibe.com)
Scot McKay is one of the few dating coaches I know who has the utmost integrity. He's always committed to what he does, with full devotion to his students--men and women alike. But that's not the only amazing thing about Scot. I'm also frequently amazed at the wealth of knowledge he has acquired over the years and how willingly he gives away so much value. Scot has some very interesting and unique views in this field and offers a wide range of carefully tailored dating education that matches every background and skill level. You can always find what is suitable for you, and your dating skills are guaranteed to improve a few notches in a short time after simply listening to him. I cannot recommend Scot enough, and you'll be glad to have put trust in him.Martin Merrill (www.DatingVoyance.com)
Hands down, Virtuosity is the best collection of dating gurus and coaches giving advice that is tailored to match any skill level or background. I am proud to be a part of this groundbreaking product!A.J. Harbinger (www.artofcharm.com)
It's great to see a collection of some of the greatest around dishing out solid advice all in one place! Definitely worthwhile for everyone.Jordan Harbinger (www.artofcharm.com)
Hey Scot--I think you're the real deal based on our conversations.Adam Gilad (www.scotrecommends.com/adam)
We've all seen those great couples who seem to be so much in tune that they can finish one another's sentences. They seem to intuit one another's needs before the other person has to ask. Whether they're at a party or at a parent-teacher conference, they just seem to be so much a unit that the rest of us average mortals can't help but feel a little jealous. Will we ever have that kind of relationship? If you ask Scot and Emily McKay, the answer is 'yes'. They're one of those 'perfect' couples, and they'll tell you that their marriage wasn't just a case of 'lucking out'.Amy Waterman (www.scotrecommends.com/mys)
I usually don't say this but THIS GUY had me glued to my chair for 2 hours straight! Everything he said was based on the SAME knowledge I have...but his approach was so different and refreshing that I was so fascinated I even forgot to take a leak.Nick Shane (www.becomeaplayboy.com)
I spent some time looking at your products and they look great. I'd like to yank some of my older affiliate promotions and add some of yours in there. I mean, when you do a product....it means months of work and fine-tuning it so that it gives the best value possible.Dean Cortez (www.scotrecommends.com/experts)
I have spent the last two years looking for products for my new site and have seen it all! I have a shortlist of about a half a dozen products and would like to put yours on either the 1st or 2nd spot. Bro, you rock.Grant Finlayson (www.datinganswers.co.uk)
I'm going to rewrite my coaching program to be more in line with what I've learnt from you.Ramon Thomas (www.datingcoach.co.za)
Scot's philosophy of quality not quantity is solid and ultimately leads to a deep level of satisfaction. Scot's material is just that QUALITY.Brad Finsilver (www.datementor.com)
I first heard about Scot McKay on the David DeAngelo's Interviews With Dating Gurus CD series. It was a fascinating interview jam-packed with useable dating tips and techniques. I couldn't wait to get his ebook and he really delivers the goods. Scot not only tells you exactly how to attract and meet women, but also shows you how to straighten up your perspective so you can actually get the kind of woman you really want. In other words, you'll discover how to truly DESERVE the woman you want...James Albert (www.code4success.com)
It seems like the kind of book I would have loved to write. All the things I was thinking about as I wrote mine but couldn't put into words, or at least as many!Steven LePoidevin (www.findinglifeafterdivorce.com)
Scot and Emily McKay are a dynamic couple who met online. He has a great new book called Deserve What You Want.Codrut Turcanu (www.onlinedatingconfessions.com)

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Scot and Emily McKay are professional dating and relationship coaches, authors and podcast hosts. Together they founded X & Y Communications in San Antonio, TX, which focuses on equipping and empowering men and women who want to go from good to great in their relationships.

They reach over 300,000 people all over the world through their newsletters, podcasts and social media. They are the authors of ten books between them, including four Amazon #1 bestsellers, and have been featured by over 400 media outlets worldwide.

Both Scot and Emily are Traveler’s Century Club members, having explored well over 100 countries together, often with their four children. Their travel blog and podcast can be found at www.wingitworldwide.com.